Above All, Beating the Odds..... or not so much!

“Beating the odds”. That is MTV’s slogan for the all new 16 and Pregnant.  As I watched the advertisement6 for the new season something just bothered me about how they think that these moms are beating the odds. So how are these young teenage girls beating the odds? I not so sure, if anything I believe that they taking part of being a statistic.

First of all according to womensissues.about.com three-quarters of a million teens between 15 and 19 become pregnant each year. That is a scary and crazy statistic that these teenagers are a part of.  Those who aren’t getting pregnant are truly the ones beating the odds.   

They are beating the odds with this next statistic. Out of all teen pregnancies, 57% end in birth. That means that almost half of teenagers that get pregnant abort the baby. Now whether you are pro-life or pro-choice, it is scary to think that so many girls are getting pregnant, than getting ride of them. What would happen if there wasn’t such a thing as abortion? Maybe than people would realize that they can’t simply “get rid” or pregnancy. I feel that with abortion teenagers are more likely to abort the baby because they want to live their life as a normal teenager, but if they abort it now, what is going to stop them next time they get pregnant, or the next.

Teens need to realize the seriousness of having sex. I know I sound like a broken record to many because everyone is telling you “be safe” and “be protected” but teenagers need to listen. I don’t know how many times we are going to have to watch teen mom’s on television, struggling to be normal, and struggling to go to college, go to work, pay the bills, struggle with relationships.  I truly hope that someday MTV can stop showing these shows because there are no longer the high pregnancy rates.

In closing, I hope you all enjoyed my criticism of the show this season. I hope that those who watch the show that it isn’t easy to be a teen mother. Remember that the only way to prevent pregnancy 100% is to not have sex.

This isn't a Fairytale.

This year in teen mom we saw a lot of drama that happened between Chelsea and Adam. The where not together-than together- then not together, and what do you know at the Teen Mom 2 After show they where back together. Dr. Drew asked a question that I myself was wondering, how many times, per month, do Chelsea and Adam brake up and than get right back together? The answer- well they where too busy trying to defend their relationship that we didn’t get the answer.

            When Dr. Drew tried to bring up the subject of trust in their relationship I realized that they are in such an unhealthy relationship. First of all, both of them have cheated on one another. How can you trust someone else when you yourself are not trust worthy? I think that they both need to build on their skill and build on resisting temptation.  Neither of them cares near enough about each other to stop what they are doing when they are “cheating” on one another, so apparently they don’t care.

            If I had to break down this relationship myself I easily could. First there is Chelsea. Her dad, Dr. Drew and myself all agree that Chelsea is looking for a fairytale. She wants Adam to be the guy she marries because she had his child. She has an ideal of her, Adam, and their baby to be a happy little family. She wants this so bad, I think, because her parents got divorced when she was a kid and she wants this American dream family. Chelsea needs to realize that this is never going to happen, because instead of Adam being a prince, he is possibly the worst toad. Now Adam, I believe that the only reason he is on the show, or with Chelsea, is because he is hungry for attention. Think about it, he is always working on his pickup… so he can get more attention for it He always is causing drama with all of Chelsea’s family…. To get more attention. He is always running off to parties and being with other girls…to get more attention. See the pattern? In Adam’s sick demented head, he thinks that he should stay with Chelsea because she has cameras on her 24/7, for an attention starving person this is a dream come true.

            My suggestion for both: Chelsea needs to get over the ideal that her life is going to work out the way she wants it to, because we all know that we can’t change people. Adam on the other hand, well, I could truly care less about how his life turns out because he has been trouble from day one. 

...And the Drama Continues...

The Teen Mom after show was full of surprises when each girl talked to Dr. Drew about the season. Since the show is over I though I would blog about parts of the after show until the new season of 16 and Pregnant starts. Out of all the interviews there is one that stuck out in my head, and that was Dr. Drew’s interview with Jenelle.

The interview started off fine Dr. Drew talked to Jenelle about Kleefler. He went on to explain that he didn’t like him and that he felt that Kleefler used Jenelle. Jenelle went on to explain how she was done with him and how she disliked him very much. To me though, this sounds exactly what Jenelle said after she went a bailed Kleefler  out of jail. She keeps going back to this guy, and it is not healthy for her. She needs to be focused on the only man in her life, her son. I believe that if stops trying to find someone to be her boyfriend, or whatever the case might be, she will do a lot better in life because she won’t have anyone to distract her. Maybe I am the only one who realized this, but every time Jenelle is with a guy she blows off everything to be with them. This is not healthy that she is that desperate for male attention. If you look back further though, where is Jenelle’s father in this picture? Throughout all the seasons I have not heard Jenelle mention once anything about her dad. She is so worried about having male attention that she disregards everything else in her life to have it. Jenelle also talked a lot about how she feels that she is so lonely. I personally believe that if she stops trying to find someone so baldy she will realize that she isn’t alone and won’t ever be alone because of her son. But in order for that to happen she needs to stop hanging around bad influences and start making wiser choices. No matter if you are a teen mom or just a mom, it is their responsibility to put their child first, before their own needs.

Talking about mothers bring me to Jenelle’s mother Barb. If you wonder why Jenelle seems to have so many problems look at her mother and you would know why. Dr. Drew asked Barb to name off three good things about Jenelle. It took her 5 minutes to think of 2, and she could not think of a third one. What kind of mother can’t look at positives in her child.. I think that this mother is the reason that Jenelle wants to be loved and wants someone in her life so badly. Because truthfully I don’t think that her mother loves her as much as she thinks she does. Than Barb went on to mention that she does not think that Jenelle is loveable. WHAT! How can you not love your own child. No matter how many mistakes a person makes, that does not make them not loveable. Who says something like that to their own child. I am flabbergasted that she would even ever consider saying that.  I think that Jenelle needs to get away from the negativity that her mother brings upon her and do the right things so she can get her child back , and than he rand her son can be their own little family. Hopefully Jace (Jenelle’s son) feels more loved than Jenelle was by her mother.