Above All, Beating the Odds..... or not so much!

“Beating the odds”. That is MTV’s slogan for the all new 16 and Pregnant.  As I watched the advertisement6 for the new season something just bothered me about how they think that these moms are beating the odds. So how are these young teenage girls beating the odds? I not so sure, if anything I believe that they taking part of being a statistic.

First of all according to womensissues.about.com three-quarters of a million teens between 15 and 19 become pregnant each year. That is a scary and crazy statistic that these teenagers are a part of.  Those who aren’t getting pregnant are truly the ones beating the odds.   

They are beating the odds with this next statistic. Out of all teen pregnancies, 57% end in birth. That means that almost half of teenagers that get pregnant abort the baby. Now whether you are pro-life or pro-choice, it is scary to think that so many girls are getting pregnant, than getting ride of them. What would happen if there wasn’t such a thing as abortion? Maybe than people would realize that they can’t simply “get rid” or pregnancy. I feel that with abortion teenagers are more likely to abort the baby because they want to live their life as a normal teenager, but if they abort it now, what is going to stop them next time they get pregnant, or the next.

Teens need to realize the seriousness of having sex. I know I sound like a broken record to many because everyone is telling you “be safe” and “be protected” but teenagers need to listen. I don’t know how many times we are going to have to watch teen mom’s on television, struggling to be normal, and struggling to go to college, go to work, pay the bills, struggle with relationships.  I truly hope that someday MTV can stop showing these shows because there are no longer the high pregnancy rates.

In closing, I hope you all enjoyed my criticism of the show this season. I hope that those who watch the show that it isn’t easy to be a teen mother. Remember that the only way to prevent pregnancy 100% is to not have sex.

This isn't a Fairytale.

This year in teen mom we saw a lot of drama that happened between Chelsea and Adam. The where not together-than together- then not together, and what do you know at the Teen Mom 2 After show they where back together. Dr. Drew asked a question that I myself was wondering, how many times, per month, do Chelsea and Adam brake up and than get right back together? The answer- well they where too busy trying to defend their relationship that we didn’t get the answer.

            When Dr. Drew tried to bring up the subject of trust in their relationship I realized that they are in such an unhealthy relationship. First of all, both of them have cheated on one another. How can you trust someone else when you yourself are not trust worthy? I think that they both need to build on their skill and build on resisting temptation.  Neither of them cares near enough about each other to stop what they are doing when they are “cheating” on one another, so apparently they don’t care.

            If I had to break down this relationship myself I easily could. First there is Chelsea. Her dad, Dr. Drew and myself all agree that Chelsea is looking for a fairytale. She wants Adam to be the guy she marries because she had his child. She has an ideal of her, Adam, and their baby to be a happy little family. She wants this so bad, I think, because her parents got divorced when she was a kid and she wants this American dream family. Chelsea needs to realize that this is never going to happen, because instead of Adam being a prince, he is possibly the worst toad. Now Adam, I believe that the only reason he is on the show, or with Chelsea, is because he is hungry for attention. Think about it, he is always working on his pickup… so he can get more attention for it He always is causing drama with all of Chelsea’s family…. To get more attention. He is always running off to parties and being with other girls…to get more attention. See the pattern? In Adam’s sick demented head, he thinks that he should stay with Chelsea because she has cameras on her 24/7, for an attention starving person this is a dream come true.

            My suggestion for both: Chelsea needs to get over the ideal that her life is going to work out the way she wants it to, because we all know that we can’t change people. Adam on the other hand, well, I could truly care less about how his life turns out because he has been trouble from day one. 

...And the Drama Continues...

The Teen Mom after show was full of surprises when each girl talked to Dr. Drew about the season. Since the show is over I though I would blog about parts of the after show until the new season of 16 and Pregnant starts. Out of all the interviews there is one that stuck out in my head, and that was Dr. Drew’s interview with Jenelle.

The interview started off fine Dr. Drew talked to Jenelle about Kleefler. He went on to explain that he didn’t like him and that he felt that Kleefler used Jenelle. Jenelle went on to explain how she was done with him and how she disliked him very much. To me though, this sounds exactly what Jenelle said after she went a bailed Kleefler  out of jail. She keeps going back to this guy, and it is not healthy for her. She needs to be focused on the only man in her life, her son. I believe that if stops trying to find someone to be her boyfriend, or whatever the case might be, she will do a lot better in life because she won’t have anyone to distract her. Maybe I am the only one who realized this, but every time Jenelle is with a guy she blows off everything to be with them. This is not healthy that she is that desperate for male attention. If you look back further though, where is Jenelle’s father in this picture? Throughout all the seasons I have not heard Jenelle mention once anything about her dad. She is so worried about having male attention that she disregards everything else in her life to have it. Jenelle also talked a lot about how she feels that she is so lonely. I personally believe that if she stops trying to find someone so baldy she will realize that she isn’t alone and won’t ever be alone because of her son. But in order for that to happen she needs to stop hanging around bad influences and start making wiser choices. No matter if you are a teen mom or just a mom, it is their responsibility to put their child first, before their own needs.

Talking about mothers bring me to Jenelle’s mother Barb. If you wonder why Jenelle seems to have so many problems look at her mother and you would know why. Dr. Drew asked Barb to name off three good things about Jenelle. It took her 5 minutes to think of 2, and she could not think of a third one. What kind of mother can’t look at positives in her child.. I think that this mother is the reason that Jenelle wants to be loved and wants someone in her life so badly. Because truthfully I don’t think that her mother loves her as much as she thinks she does. Than Barb went on to mention that she does not think that Jenelle is loveable. WHAT! How can you not love your own child. No matter how many mistakes a person makes, that does not make them not loveable. Who says something like that to their own child. I am flabbergasted that she would even ever consider saying that.  I think that Jenelle needs to get away from the negativity that her mother brings upon her and do the right things so she can get her child back , and than he rand her son can be their own little family. Hopefully Jace (Jenelle’s son) feels more loved than Jenelle was by her mother. 

Big Finale: Big Mistakes!

Wow! So they season finale has come and gone, but there are so many things that the show showed in its hour and a half finale last night. I could talk about how Leah and Corey’s “redneck” wedding, and tell you how I believe that throughout the show they have proven time and time again that they are the most mature parents that MTV has shown. I could also talk to you about Kaitlyn and her selfish way, and how her and Jo now have custody agreements over their child.  Or I could talk about Chelsea and how I called it from the beginning that Adam is nothing but a TV star hungry guy, and truthfully is the most immature, laziest creature alive, but I’m not. I am not going to share my feelings about any of these things, because the one thing that truly bothered me in this finale is a mother who is so lost, so immature, and needs some serious help, Jenelle.

Here is the quick story about Jenelle’s in this last episode. First of all, her mother and her had a heart to heart, where her mom than told her that she doesn’t think that Jenelle truly loves her. And honestly, I can see where her mother sees that, if you truly love someone you do not act selfishly knowing that it will hurt the other person. Jenelle cannot even talk to her mother without her mom yelling at her. So, during this heart to heart her mother told her that she was forbidden to see Kleefler. Next came the part that shocked me, Jenelle went to see Kleefler, never expecting to get caught, and what do you know they did. Jenelle’s mother didn’t catch them though, that would have been much better than what actually did happen. Kleefler and Jenelle both got arrested for breaking and enter, and position of marijuana. Just so you know, I looked at a study and it showed there is a link between drug abuse and pregnancy (fundsnetservices.com). Jenelle was so mad that she swore she was never going to be with Kleefler again, and that they where done. Approximately two days later she bailed him out of jail. I seriously want to ask Jenelle what she is thinking. Where in her right mind does that make since to be with a guy like that. Not only Jenelle but also most of the teen mothers we have seen are hanging around low lives. Don’t they realize that just because they have a baby doesn’t mean they have to lower their standards as a person? Here is something I am really interested to see how it plays out because 1) if Kleefler doesn’t make it to court, one of Jenelle’s friends that signed for her will be charged $2000 and 2) Jenelle’s mom said if she bailed out Kleefler this is the last time that she will have anything to do with Jenelle. So it sounds like Jenelle did the right thing, right? ERRR. Wrong, she is being so stupid. Sometimes we have to stop feeling with our hearts and think with our heads.

My recommendation to Jenelle is to stay as far away from people who bring negativity into her life. She needs to stay away from drugs, alcohol and realize what is important in her life. She said her excuse for bailing Kleefler out is because she loves him, well shouldn’t she be thinking about the one guy she is supposed to love the most, that is her son. If she really were thinking she would know that eventually she is going to get caught, and when she does she won’t get to see her son. So I sure hope that her little boyfriend now doesn’t cause her to not be able to see her son.  She doesn't want to go from her mom having temporary custody to full, but I have a feeling that is what is going to end up happening. 

Do the Relationships Ever Last?

This week on teen mom we saw 2 of the teens mom deal with guy problem. Coincident? I don’t think so! We all have heard that females mature faster than males do, so it is no wonder some of the guys on this show are so irresponsible and very immature.

First of all, Chelsea needs to be done with her ex-boyfriend Adam. Chelsea and Adam broke up last week and there has been nothing but drama between them now. I was actually shocked because Chelsea and Adam broke up quite gracefully, so there was an ounce of hope in me that thought they where just going to be settle towards each other. That hope got shattered when I realized that Adam hasn’t changed since the first season of 16 and Pregnant. He is still the guy who thinks he is a woman’s dream man, but in reality he is nothing but a crooked hat and a lot of talk. Did I mention that he owes over two thousands dollars in child support, doesn’t have a job and is seeing another girl within a week of breaking up with Chelsea? A real keeper isn’t he? Than he has the nerve to call Chelsea and demands that he see’s his child.  Thank gosh Chelsea finally stood up for herself and told him no. I can see that Chelsea still wants to be with Adam but won’t confess it. She really needs to realize that this is not what she wants, and she needs to start focusing more on herself, her baby and her schoolwork.

            On to the next man that needs to be dumped, Keefer, Jenelle’s boyfriend. Her mom said it all when she said that “ever since Keefer has been around there has been nothing but trouble”, and its true. Since she has been dating Keefer she has 1) been kicked out of her 3 times, 2) stole her mom’s credit cards 3) caught smoking marijuana, 4) Feel way behind in school 5) lost her job. No wonder why she wants to stay with him so badly, greatness surrounds her when she is with him. 

I want to slap her and Chelsea both and say, “Hey, stop being dumb”. As a woman I would never want to surround myself with such jerks, that have no life, that have no job, and frankly are going nowhere in life. They desire much better. I don’t know if they think they don’t because they have a kid but they do.  I think that the best think for both of them right now is to truly commit to being a better mother and not worry about having a boyfriend. And hopefully, they will realize that they should be with better guys someday.

            

What was she thinking!

If you have previously read my blogs I am guessing that you know by know how I feel about Jenelle, if not, let me recap. My personal feelings towards Jenelle is that she believes that she is doing her best, and who knows maybe she is, but she makes the stupidest decisions. She is always taking 2 steps forward 5 steps back. Turning to pot, stealing and lying are just a few of the ways that she has messed up her trust with a lot of people in her life, especially her mother.  Although it is evident that Jenelle loves her son, she is not a fit mother at this time in her life. So know that you that we can move on to the unnecessary drama that accrued this week.

In this episode Jenelle stole two of her mom’s credit cards and her and her boyfriend (Kleefler) ran up to New Jersey (I looked up what is the shortest distance from New Jersey to North Carolina and it is 530 miles). She seriously has to be delusional if she truly believes that her mother isn’t going to get mad over this. Not only did she use the cards to fill up the gas in the car, but also for anything they needed along with way. What’s in New Jersey you ask? Kleeflers brother, whom not to be stereotypical looked high on drugs the entire episode.

I really am trying to get where Jenelle is coming from but I am having a difficult time. Why would she go threw such a hassle and make so many wrong choices with this guy? It is almost as she needs a guy in her life to fill the gap that she is missing. What Jenelle needs more than anything is for her mother to be more patient, kinder, and more open to her? Considering that Jenelle does not have a dad is another reason that she is craving this male attention. Now I am not sure what exactly happened to her dad, he might have passed, but I have a slight feeling that he ran away from her and that is why she is always drawn to have male attention. I just want to shake Jenelle because I know she has such great potential to be a great mother for her child but she keeps making the stupid mistakes that lead her down the wrong road. I wish Jenelle could find a guy who 1) had a job 2) wasn’t a bum and 3) was going somewhere in life. If she had someone who was stable and who could be stable for her she would be in much better condition than she is right now.  She needs to get her head on straight before she can even think about having her baby back from her mother.  As great as her mother is with Jenelle’s child, I fear that this child is going to be raised the same way Jenelle was raised and that is with bad decision-making skills. Although who knows, anything can happen in this world. 

Grow Up.

This week on teen mom there wasn’t one major issue that went on, there where several smaller issue. Even though these issues where smaller, doesn’t mean that they weren’t serious though. Also, I apologize ahead of time for any tangents I might go off on.

First of all, the first issue that truly bugged me what when Jenelle’s mom caught Jenelle and Kleefler smoking marijuana on her front deck. I have heard many claims with people saying that marijuana should be legalized because everyone does it. It doesn’t matter if you think it should be legalized or not, because right now it is illegal and therefore they should obey the law. This is such a poor example for Jenelle’s child. This might sound cliché, but for every 2 steps Jenelle takes, I feel that she is taking one backwards. She is trying hard to prove her responsibility to her mother and to herself by getting a job, going to school and helping around the house but there is no excuse for smoking pot.  It makes me wonder if she smoked while pregnant, a statement from marchfordimes.com stated “teens are more likely than women over age 25 to smoke during pregnancy. In 2004, 17 percent of pregnant teens ages 15 to 19 smoked, compared to 10 percent of pregnant women ages 25 to 34.” This is a serious issue; teen mothers need to stop being selfish and do what is best for the baby.

Talking about being selfish one other issue during the show was centered around the most selfish mother that I have ever seen on teen mom, Kaitlyn. Not only is she secretly dating another guy, but also she is caring more about having a boyfriend than she is about her baby. I don’t understand why she has to be so wrapped up in having a boyfriend. What she needs to do is focus on work so that she can provide for herself and not relies on her ex, Jo. She can’t even afford the school she is going to how can she afford a new boyfriend? Jo is providing house, materials for the baby and everything that goes a long with that. I don’t understand her being so egger to move out, she has a good life with his family. The only reason she wants to move out is because of one reason, and that is that under Jo’s parent house rules she cannot be seeing any other boys while living there. That is one rule and everything else is fine, she comes and goes as she wants and rarely helps out around the house.  How much more could she ask for? I truly don’t understand her way of thinking, she needs to grow up and start being a mother. My advice to Jo is to go to court and get full custody of the baby. He is a great father and does more than Kaitlin has ever done. 

Over all I really think that all of the teen mom's need to start growing up.  If they stop being selfish and start doing what is best for their babies their lives will be a lot better!