Above All, Beating the Odds..... or not so much!

“Beating the odds”. That is MTV’s slogan for the all new 16 and Pregnant.  As I watched the advertisement6 for the new season something just bothered me about how they think that these moms are beating the odds. So how are these young teenage girls beating the odds? I not so sure, if anything I believe that they taking part of being a statistic.

First of all according to womensissues.about.com three-quarters of a million teens between 15 and 19 become pregnant each year. That is a scary and crazy statistic that these teenagers are a part of.  Those who aren’t getting pregnant are truly the ones beating the odds.   

They are beating the odds with this next statistic. Out of all teen pregnancies, 57% end in birth. That means that almost half of teenagers that get pregnant abort the baby. Now whether you are pro-life or pro-choice, it is scary to think that so many girls are getting pregnant, than getting ride of them. What would happen if there wasn’t such a thing as abortion? Maybe than people would realize that they can’t simply “get rid” or pregnancy. I feel that with abortion teenagers are more likely to abort the baby because they want to live their life as a normal teenager, but if they abort it now, what is going to stop them next time they get pregnant, or the next.

Teens need to realize the seriousness of having sex. I know I sound like a broken record to many because everyone is telling you “be safe” and “be protected” but teenagers need to listen. I don’t know how many times we are going to have to watch teen mom’s on television, struggling to be normal, and struggling to go to college, go to work, pay the bills, struggle with relationships.  I truly hope that someday MTV can stop showing these shows because there are no longer the high pregnancy rates.

In closing, I hope you all enjoyed my criticism of the show this season. I hope that those who watch the show that it isn’t easy to be a teen mother. Remember that the only way to prevent pregnancy 100% is to not have sex.

This isn't a Fairytale.

This year in teen mom we saw a lot of drama that happened between Chelsea and Adam. The where not together-than together- then not together, and what do you know at the Teen Mom 2 After show they where back together. Dr. Drew asked a question that I myself was wondering, how many times, per month, do Chelsea and Adam brake up and than get right back together? The answer- well they where too busy trying to defend their relationship that we didn’t get the answer.

            When Dr. Drew tried to bring up the subject of trust in their relationship I realized that they are in such an unhealthy relationship. First of all, both of them have cheated on one another. How can you trust someone else when you yourself are not trust worthy? I think that they both need to build on their skill and build on resisting temptation.  Neither of them cares near enough about each other to stop what they are doing when they are “cheating” on one another, so apparently they don’t care.

            If I had to break down this relationship myself I easily could. First there is Chelsea. Her dad, Dr. Drew and myself all agree that Chelsea is looking for a fairytale. She wants Adam to be the guy she marries because she had his child. She has an ideal of her, Adam, and their baby to be a happy little family. She wants this so bad, I think, because her parents got divorced when she was a kid and she wants this American dream family. Chelsea needs to realize that this is never going to happen, because instead of Adam being a prince, he is possibly the worst toad. Now Adam, I believe that the only reason he is on the show, or with Chelsea, is because he is hungry for attention. Think about it, he is always working on his pickup… so he can get more attention for it He always is causing drama with all of Chelsea’s family…. To get more attention. He is always running off to parties and being with other girls…to get more attention. See the pattern? In Adam’s sick demented head, he thinks that he should stay with Chelsea because she has cameras on her 24/7, for an attention starving person this is a dream come true.

            My suggestion for both: Chelsea needs to get over the ideal that her life is going to work out the way she wants it to, because we all know that we can’t change people. Adam on the other hand, well, I could truly care less about how his life turns out because he has been trouble from day one. 

...And the Drama Continues...

The Teen Mom after show was full of surprises when each girl talked to Dr. Drew about the season. Since the show is over I though I would blog about parts of the after show until the new season of 16 and Pregnant starts. Out of all the interviews there is one that stuck out in my head, and that was Dr. Drew’s interview with Jenelle.

The interview started off fine Dr. Drew talked to Jenelle about Kleefler. He went on to explain that he didn’t like him and that he felt that Kleefler used Jenelle. Jenelle went on to explain how she was done with him and how she disliked him very much. To me though, this sounds exactly what Jenelle said after she went a bailed Kleefler  out of jail. She keeps going back to this guy, and it is not healthy for her. She needs to be focused on the only man in her life, her son. I believe that if stops trying to find someone to be her boyfriend, or whatever the case might be, she will do a lot better in life because she won’t have anyone to distract her. Maybe I am the only one who realized this, but every time Jenelle is with a guy she blows off everything to be with them. This is not healthy that she is that desperate for male attention. If you look back further though, where is Jenelle’s father in this picture? Throughout all the seasons I have not heard Jenelle mention once anything about her dad. She is so worried about having male attention that she disregards everything else in her life to have it. Jenelle also talked a lot about how she feels that she is so lonely. I personally believe that if she stops trying to find someone so baldy she will realize that she isn’t alone and won’t ever be alone because of her son. But in order for that to happen she needs to stop hanging around bad influences and start making wiser choices. No matter if you are a teen mom or just a mom, it is their responsibility to put their child first, before their own needs.

Talking about mothers bring me to Jenelle’s mother Barb. If you wonder why Jenelle seems to have so many problems look at her mother and you would know why. Dr. Drew asked Barb to name off three good things about Jenelle. It took her 5 minutes to think of 2, and she could not think of a third one. What kind of mother can’t look at positives in her child.. I think that this mother is the reason that Jenelle wants to be loved and wants someone in her life so badly. Because truthfully I don’t think that her mother loves her as much as she thinks she does. Than Barb went on to mention that she does not think that Jenelle is loveable. WHAT! How can you not love your own child. No matter how many mistakes a person makes, that does not make them not loveable. Who says something like that to their own child. I am flabbergasted that she would even ever consider saying that.  I think that Jenelle needs to get away from the negativity that her mother brings upon her and do the right things so she can get her child back , and than he rand her son can be their own little family. Hopefully Jace (Jenelle’s son) feels more loved than Jenelle was by her mother. 

Big Finale: Big Mistakes!

Wow! So they season finale has come and gone, but there are so many things that the show showed in its hour and a half finale last night. I could talk about how Leah and Corey’s “redneck” wedding, and tell you how I believe that throughout the show they have proven time and time again that they are the most mature parents that MTV has shown. I could also talk to you about Kaitlyn and her selfish way, and how her and Jo now have custody agreements over their child.  Or I could talk about Chelsea and how I called it from the beginning that Adam is nothing but a TV star hungry guy, and truthfully is the most immature, laziest creature alive, but I’m not. I am not going to share my feelings about any of these things, because the one thing that truly bothered me in this finale is a mother who is so lost, so immature, and needs some serious help, Jenelle.

Here is the quick story about Jenelle’s in this last episode. First of all, her mother and her had a heart to heart, where her mom than told her that she doesn’t think that Jenelle truly loves her. And honestly, I can see where her mother sees that, if you truly love someone you do not act selfishly knowing that it will hurt the other person. Jenelle cannot even talk to her mother without her mom yelling at her. So, during this heart to heart her mother told her that she was forbidden to see Kleefler. Next came the part that shocked me, Jenelle went to see Kleefler, never expecting to get caught, and what do you know they did. Jenelle’s mother didn’t catch them though, that would have been much better than what actually did happen. Kleefler and Jenelle both got arrested for breaking and enter, and position of marijuana. Just so you know, I looked at a study and it showed there is a link between drug abuse and pregnancy (fundsnetservices.com). Jenelle was so mad that she swore she was never going to be with Kleefler again, and that they where done. Approximately two days later she bailed him out of jail. I seriously want to ask Jenelle what she is thinking. Where in her right mind does that make since to be with a guy like that. Not only Jenelle but also most of the teen mothers we have seen are hanging around low lives. Don’t they realize that just because they have a baby doesn’t mean they have to lower their standards as a person? Here is something I am really interested to see how it plays out because 1) if Kleefler doesn’t make it to court, one of Jenelle’s friends that signed for her will be charged $2000 and 2) Jenelle’s mom said if she bailed out Kleefler this is the last time that she will have anything to do with Jenelle. So it sounds like Jenelle did the right thing, right? ERRR. Wrong, she is being so stupid. Sometimes we have to stop feeling with our hearts and think with our heads.

My recommendation to Jenelle is to stay as far away from people who bring negativity into her life. She needs to stay away from drugs, alcohol and realize what is important in her life. She said her excuse for bailing Kleefler out is because she loves him, well shouldn’t she be thinking about the one guy she is supposed to love the most, that is her son. If she really were thinking she would know that eventually she is going to get caught, and when she does she won’t get to see her son. So I sure hope that her little boyfriend now doesn’t cause her to not be able to see her son.  She doesn't want to go from her mom having temporary custody to full, but I have a feeling that is what is going to end up happening. 

Do the Relationships Ever Last?

This week on teen mom we saw 2 of the teens mom deal with guy problem. Coincident? I don’t think so! We all have heard that females mature faster than males do, so it is no wonder some of the guys on this show are so irresponsible and very immature.

First of all, Chelsea needs to be done with her ex-boyfriend Adam. Chelsea and Adam broke up last week and there has been nothing but drama between them now. I was actually shocked because Chelsea and Adam broke up quite gracefully, so there was an ounce of hope in me that thought they where just going to be settle towards each other. That hope got shattered when I realized that Adam hasn’t changed since the first season of 16 and Pregnant. He is still the guy who thinks he is a woman’s dream man, but in reality he is nothing but a crooked hat and a lot of talk. Did I mention that he owes over two thousands dollars in child support, doesn’t have a job and is seeing another girl within a week of breaking up with Chelsea? A real keeper isn’t he? Than he has the nerve to call Chelsea and demands that he see’s his child.  Thank gosh Chelsea finally stood up for herself and told him no. I can see that Chelsea still wants to be with Adam but won’t confess it. She really needs to realize that this is not what she wants, and she needs to start focusing more on herself, her baby and her schoolwork.

            On to the next man that needs to be dumped, Keefer, Jenelle’s boyfriend. Her mom said it all when she said that “ever since Keefer has been around there has been nothing but trouble”, and its true. Since she has been dating Keefer she has 1) been kicked out of her 3 times, 2) stole her mom’s credit cards 3) caught smoking marijuana, 4) Feel way behind in school 5) lost her job. No wonder why she wants to stay with him so badly, greatness surrounds her when she is with him. 

I want to slap her and Chelsea both and say, “Hey, stop being dumb”. As a woman I would never want to surround myself with such jerks, that have no life, that have no job, and frankly are going nowhere in life. They desire much better. I don’t know if they think they don’t because they have a kid but they do.  I think that the best think for both of them right now is to truly commit to being a better mother and not worry about having a boyfriend. And hopefully, they will realize that they should be with better guys someday.

            

What was she thinking!

If you have previously read my blogs I am guessing that you know by know how I feel about Jenelle, if not, let me recap. My personal feelings towards Jenelle is that she believes that she is doing her best, and who knows maybe she is, but she makes the stupidest decisions. She is always taking 2 steps forward 5 steps back. Turning to pot, stealing and lying are just a few of the ways that she has messed up her trust with a lot of people in her life, especially her mother.  Although it is evident that Jenelle loves her son, she is not a fit mother at this time in her life. So know that you that we can move on to the unnecessary drama that accrued this week.

In this episode Jenelle stole two of her mom’s credit cards and her and her boyfriend (Kleefler) ran up to New Jersey (I looked up what is the shortest distance from New Jersey to North Carolina and it is 530 miles). She seriously has to be delusional if she truly believes that her mother isn’t going to get mad over this. Not only did she use the cards to fill up the gas in the car, but also for anything they needed along with way. What’s in New Jersey you ask? Kleeflers brother, whom not to be stereotypical looked high on drugs the entire episode.

I really am trying to get where Jenelle is coming from but I am having a difficult time. Why would she go threw such a hassle and make so many wrong choices with this guy? It is almost as she needs a guy in her life to fill the gap that she is missing. What Jenelle needs more than anything is for her mother to be more patient, kinder, and more open to her? Considering that Jenelle does not have a dad is another reason that she is craving this male attention. Now I am not sure what exactly happened to her dad, he might have passed, but I have a slight feeling that he ran away from her and that is why she is always drawn to have male attention. I just want to shake Jenelle because I know she has such great potential to be a great mother for her child but she keeps making the stupid mistakes that lead her down the wrong road. I wish Jenelle could find a guy who 1) had a job 2) wasn’t a bum and 3) was going somewhere in life. If she had someone who was stable and who could be stable for her she would be in much better condition than she is right now.  She needs to get her head on straight before she can even think about having her baby back from her mother.  As great as her mother is with Jenelle’s child, I fear that this child is going to be raised the same way Jenelle was raised and that is with bad decision-making skills. Although who knows, anything can happen in this world. 

Grow Up.

This week on teen mom there wasn’t one major issue that went on, there where several smaller issue. Even though these issues where smaller, doesn’t mean that they weren’t serious though. Also, I apologize ahead of time for any tangents I might go off on.

First of all, the first issue that truly bugged me what when Jenelle’s mom caught Jenelle and Kleefler smoking marijuana on her front deck. I have heard many claims with people saying that marijuana should be legalized because everyone does it. It doesn’t matter if you think it should be legalized or not, because right now it is illegal and therefore they should obey the law. This is such a poor example for Jenelle’s child. This might sound cliché, but for every 2 steps Jenelle takes, I feel that she is taking one backwards. She is trying hard to prove her responsibility to her mother and to herself by getting a job, going to school and helping around the house but there is no excuse for smoking pot.  It makes me wonder if she smoked while pregnant, a statement from marchfordimes.com stated “teens are more likely than women over age 25 to smoke during pregnancy. In 2004, 17 percent of pregnant teens ages 15 to 19 smoked, compared to 10 percent of pregnant women ages 25 to 34.” This is a serious issue; teen mothers need to stop being selfish and do what is best for the baby.

Talking about being selfish one other issue during the show was centered around the most selfish mother that I have ever seen on teen mom, Kaitlyn. Not only is she secretly dating another guy, but also she is caring more about having a boyfriend than she is about her baby. I don’t understand why she has to be so wrapped up in having a boyfriend. What she needs to do is focus on work so that she can provide for herself and not relies on her ex, Jo. She can’t even afford the school she is going to how can she afford a new boyfriend? Jo is providing house, materials for the baby and everything that goes a long with that. I don’t understand her being so egger to move out, she has a good life with his family. The only reason she wants to move out is because of one reason, and that is that under Jo’s parent house rules she cannot be seeing any other boys while living there. That is one rule and everything else is fine, she comes and goes as she wants and rarely helps out around the house.  How much more could she ask for? I truly don’t understand her way of thinking, she needs to grow up and start being a mother. My advice to Jo is to go to court and get full custody of the baby. He is a great father and does more than Kaitlin has ever done. 

Over all I really think that all of the teen mom's need to start growing up.  If they stop being selfish and start doing what is best for their babies their lives will be a lot better! 

Wedding Bells!

This week’s episode brought a lot of change for many of the couples.  For one couple in particular, Leah and Corey, that change meant deciding to tie the not and get married. Although many family members and friends think that they are moving way to fast, Corey and Leah think that they are moving at the right pace.

I think that Leah and Corey are definitely the most mature couple and they prove that through their amazing parenting but I am not in agreement with their decision. Although it is clear to see that they are in love, and that they would do anything for each other, I am just not sure if they are ready to take that step in their relationship. They need to realize that marriage is going to last them forever, or at least it is supposed to.  Yes they already have children and they have their own house but I think that they should just enjoy being a couple and not get married.  They have always moved fast Leah stated that “We have always done things fast in our relationship” and that is true. Within a month of dating, Leah and Corey 1) had sex and 2) got pregnant with twins.  Within a year than they got pregnant, had twins, got engaged and they are planning to getting married. Above all of this, they are having so many troubles with their one baby, Ali. I just do not think that they need to get married right now; it is just not good timing. According to Suite101.com “Although marriage may offer more financial stability to teen moms, getting married as a teen does has its share of negative risks. Divorce rates are higher for women who marry before the age of 20.” The chances of Leah and Corey getting into fights because of stress are even higher because of their baby, Ali, troubles.

Just in case anyone didn’t catch the show the other day, here is the update on Ali. Leah took her to the eye doctor because she is crossed eye and cannot control her eyes.  Leah asked the doctor if it could be because of nerve damage on her spin, and the eye doctor said that most likely it has to do with her brain. I feel terrible for this little girl. It seems that she can just not function, but I am hoping that she is just a late developer and that there is no long term effect.  So on top of this Leah and Corey still want to get married? It just seems like there would be a lot of stressed put on both of them if they did.  

Getting married is just not necessary right now because they have to much more to worry about. It is not like I don’t think they will get married eventually but a lot of changes happen when you are young and who knows Corey and Leah might change because of their age. I just think that they need to take time with this decision, for once in their lives.

Oh, the Drama.

Whoa! If you just watched this weeks episode of teen mom I am sure your head is spinning just like mine is. There was so much drama this weekend and the funny thing is if some people had made a little more effort none of it would have started at all.  This week Chelsea, Adam (the boyfriend) and Megan (the roommate) defiantly had a lot of unnecessary drama.

The whole situation started when Chelsea’s dad told her that Adam needed to pay for both child support and rent if he wanted to live with Chelsea. I totally agree, there is no reason that Adam shouldn’t be pulling his fair share if he is going to live there.  If you watched the show you might have noticed that Adam doesn’t do a whole lot, he claims that he has a job but unless playing video games, sleeping, and working on his car is a job he doesn’t have one. He has so much time one his hands and what does he decide to do with it? You guessed it, sleep till 2 almost everyday. I am not one to judge but Adam is such a lazy person, he should be trying to support his family instead of sitting on his butt all day.

 I find that in every case on Teen Mom 2 (except for Leah and Corey) that the parents are not acting like parents at all. They need to understand that they made the decision to have sex, not they have to put on their grown up underwear and live with it.   Maybe Chelsea just "loves" Adam because she once had ssex with him. FamilyFirstaid.org stated "The younger a teenaged girl is when she has sex for the first time, the more likely she is to have had unwanted or non-voluntary sex." Maybe Adam pressured her into having sex and now she is just attached to him because she had sex.

The drama really started when Adam text Chelsea roommate Megan and told her to move out. First of all, Adam had live their for 2 weeks and Megan has been there since the beginning. Not only that but in 16 and Pregnant Megan was there for Chelsea every single time that Adam was being a jerk to her. Adam had no right what so ever to kick her out of the house when he doesn’t even pay rent. I feel that Adam should have made the effort to be nicer to Megan considering that she 1) helps clean and isn’t a slob 2) babysits all the time, and 3) that she isn’t mean to him. The least Adam could have did was be nice to her, he has nothing else to do all day so he could have tried to be nice. The whole thing ended up blowing up. Megan moved out, Chelsea ended the show crying hysterically because she didn’t want Megan to move out and she felt that she had to choice Adam or Megan.

This whole situation frustrates me. From the very beginning both Chelsea’s dad and Megan have told Chelsea to not be in a relationship with Adam. Why doesn’t she listen to the people who have been there for her, her whole life! My solution to this whole problem…get rid of Adam, he brings nothing but gloom and doom. 

Teen Dad?

Although a lot happened in this episode I want to focus on something that really bothered me. Kailtyn has been selfish throughout this whole season, focused on “poor her” rather than what is best for her child.  In the first part of the show she fought with Jo for not apparently doing anything.. I am not saying that working and going to school would be easy but a lot of people do it.  According to www.brockport.edu 57% of students work while in college so it is not like she is all alone. Another thing is, is that it is great for her to want to go to school, but she doesn’t even have the money to pay for it let alone a baby sitter.  Kaitlyn is way to selfish and it only thinking about her self. She made the adult decision to have sex, she should know that it comes along with responsibilities.  She needs to grow up really fast because if she doesn’t I know there will be some serious consequences.

Jo, her baby’s dad,  is picking up so much slack for her. He works, does laundry  and keeps care of the baby,  and Kaitlyn will go to his house and complain about how he doesn’t do anything. As we all know she is not living at her own house, she is financially depending on Jo and his family.  Kaitlyn acts disrespectful to his parents and they have done nothing but help her through this whole thing. Jo’s Dad talked to Kailtyn one night and told her that she needs to stop causing problems because they are all stressed out, and what does Kaitlyn do? She once again thought “poor me” instead of being an adult and stepping up to the plate and doing what is best for the family.  In the back of my mind I always knew that Kailtyn was selfish but it didn’t completely strike me till something happened. That something was Jo and her getting kicked out of his parent’s house.  Jo called Kaitlyn and told her and the first thing she said is “what am I supposed to do?”. Not what are WE going to do, or how is the BABY, no it was “what am I supposed to do?. It makes me furious that there are parents like that in the world that are self centered, how will she ever raise a respectable child when she is too worried about herself.  Back to what happen, Jo than told her that they could live with his aunt in New Jersey, and Kaitlyn (being the selfish person she is) told him that she wasn’t going to move because she had school here and a job here. Braintrack.com stated “ there are 7,000 higher education institutions in the U.S. with over 15 million students according to US Department of Education statistics”, I am pretty sure Kailtyn could find another school. And as far as her job, she works at some department store, I am pretty sure she won’t have troubles finding a local McDonalds if she has to. She needs to start thinking about what is right for her child and less about herself. 

Jenelle Growing Up. Week 3

If you have been following along this season you would have to be oblivious not realize that Jenelle has some major issues in her life. This week she seemed to turn around her life a little bit.  As we saw in last week episode Jenelle’s mother let her back in the house but wanted to continue with the custody battle. If you listen to the words Jenelle speaks you would think that she was totally fine with signing over her child so that her mother would be able to have temporary custody. When I look deeper though I see the expressions on her face it is easy to tell that she is doing all she can to try to be the best mother, but yet she does not want to sign over her baby. I am not a mother, but I believe that would be a very difficult thing to do. It is saying “Hey, I  was unsuccessful at raising my child so I guess I have to let someone else do it for me.” Not only did she do a bad job at raising her child so far in his life but now she has to deal with her previous actions and there is no way she can erase them. I think she is starting to realize that she does need to be a better mother.  There was one point in the show when Jenelle stated that she felt like there is more pressure on her now because she knows that she needs to do good and she knows that she needs to set goals in her life.  As Jenelle put it she needs “ to get my head on straight and start following the rules”. Her realizing this is going to make a huge difference in her life. I believe that no one can set a goal for someone else, a goal needs to be set from within one self if it is going to be accomplished. For Jenelle to make goals and want to do good in her life is an accomplishment in itself.  

Starting to work on her goals, Jenelle went searching for a job.  Her job search started at the beginning of the episode, she went to several different places and filled out many application forms and finally landed a job at a local bar.  In my opinion Jenelle wants to prove to her mom that she can keep care of her baby and that she can support him without her mother. I also think that Jenelle wants to prove to herself more than anything that she can do it. Another reason that it is good she got a job because she is also going to college. I hope she follow through and gets a college degree, but the statics are scary and show how rare it is to get a college degree if you are a teen mom. According to www.familyfirstaid.org they claim that one-third of teen mothers receive a high school diploma and only 1.5% of them have a college degree by the age of thirty. That is a scary considering that

820,000 girls a year under 20 get pregnant. I believe that Jenelle can do this if she signs over the papers to her mother, which in this episode she did.

Jenelle legally signed over her child to her mother. I feel like as soon as Jenelle signed those papers she grew up a little. Jenelle finally looked at her child first and did what is best for him. From that moment, until the end of the episode Jenelle started to act more like a mother than she ever has before. In a way I am proud of her. She is finally slowly turning around her life. I just hope that she stays on track, because I believe if she does she has the opportunity to be a great mother.

Round 2.

The second week of teen mom was just as exciting and drama filled as the last week’s episode.

As we saw in last week episode Jenelle is fighting for her baby in a custody battle against her mom.  As much as Jenelle tries to convince the cameras that she is a good mom, it is easy for me to see that she is not. I don’t classify a “good mom” as one who parties every single weekend, smokes marijuana (as she stated to the lawyer), does not have a home, does not keep care of her kid and does not make money to support her kid. Truthfully, the only thing that Jenelle does for the baby is give it love and frankly that is not enough.  If you give the baby love, that isn’t going to pay for the bills and caring for him is not going to make the fact that she does illegal drugs okay. What a poor example of a mother, this child is going to learn from his mother and not grow up with a stable background. This is why I think that it is so appropriate that Jenelle’s mother is fighting for this baby. According to dosomething.org when a teenage mother gets pregnant it truly has bad effects on the babies. They stated that girls born to teen mothers are more likely to be teen mothers themselves and boys born to teen moms are more likely to end up in prison. That is scary to think about and I understand how that can happen, look at Jenelle. She thinks it is okay for her to party but these bad habits lead to more bad habits and the habits that she has will someday turn into her son’s habits. This is why Jenelle’s baby needs a better example than the one Jenelle is showing him. She needs to stop being self-involved and think about how to show the baby a good example, while still having fun in life. I do think that Jenelle’s mother is not helping the situation by not letting her learn how to keep care of the baby but she is still a better mother and example than Jenelle is.  By the end of the episode we see that Jenelle’s mom lets her back into the house but clearly states that if she messes up one more time that she is out for good.  If it was me I would have thought twice about letting Jenelle back into the house because she demonstrates domestic violence all the time. This is another worry of mine, if she is physically and mentally hurting her mother, how is she going to know not to do any better with her own child?

Kaitlyn was dumped by her baby’s father last week and moved on quickly as we all saw in this week’s episode. For those of you who didn’t get to catch the show Kaitlyn is now dating a co-worker of hers behind Jo’s (the ex) back. I have mixed feelings about this whole situation. I dislike the fact that Kailtyn is first of all dating, and secondly not telling anyone that she is. She shouldn’t be dating this quickly especially since she did not even wait a few months. I do believe that if Jo doesn’t want to be with her anymore and she has the same feelings towards him that they should be able to date other people but I don’t think that she had enough time to let her heart properly heal before rushing into another relationship. I also don’t think it is right how Jo provides a house for her, a ride for her and all of the necessities in life and she won’t even tell him that she is dating someone. I truthfully think she needs to move out of his house and start her own life. She can’t depend on his family if she isn’t dating him anymore. I also think that she needs to think more about the baby than herself. She can’t worry so much right now about dating, she needs to start saving money so that she can properly pay for daycare and pay for a house so that someday she can get her own house and not depend upon someone else.

Chelsea is so distracted by her baby’s daddy Adam. Here is some history about Adam if you just started watching the show. In 16 and Pregnant Chelsea was not supported at all by Adam, actually he sent her a text message saying, “Tell me when and where to sign over for that mistake”.  He is not exactly “good dad” material. I was very surprised when Chelsea told her friend that she still likes Adam and still wants to be with him. Some girls are stupid when it comes to guys. Why would you ever want someone in your life who will degrade you and say hasty things to you? He said, “I have changed”, give me a break! That lines has been used so much to get back old girlfriends, the truth of that matter is that he has not changed, he has just realized that no other girl will let them get by with treating them that way. I guess, maybe he has change (even though its doubtful) but she needs to make sure that he has changed before she makes any rash decision. Adam did seem like he missed the baby and I hope that he isn’t just putting on a show for the cameras.

Last but definitely not least is Leah. Leah had a tough week this week. My heart felt for her as I saw how much pain she was in. This week, Leah explained her worries about one of her twins. She noticed that she does not really have any feeling in that leg and she never supports herself on it. Like any good mother would, Leah took her daughter to the doctor and had it examine, when the doctor told her that she would have to have an MRI and Leah broke down. I can honestly say that Leah is the most unselfish teen mom on the show. She stated during the whole doctor visit that “it isn’t fair that her baby has to go through it” and that “I’m not scared for myself, I’m scared for her”. I am truly amazed on how she is so focused and so caring about her baby. Than Leah and Corey made one of the most grown up decisions, they decided that they are going to stop arguing. They said that if the baby has to go through that they she does not need parents that are going to be arguing all the time.  Unselfish. Unselfish is the only work I can use to describe Leah. She is putting her babies lives in front of her with no regrets. She is fully aware of what she is doing all the time and keeps in mind that everything she does, she now does for the babies. It is easy for most of the teen moms to say, or to think, that they are being unselfish but she is truly and fully unselfish!

Teen Mom Starts Off

The Teen Mom 2 series started off with a bang with lots of drama in each girl’s life!

While watching the show I kept thinking to myself about the coincident that each of the four ladies were single. The more I thought about the less I thought of it as a coincident and the more I thought of it as a common theme amongst all pregnancies in the United states.  Think about someone who you know that got pregnant in high school, did the baby’s daddy stay with her? More than likely, that answer is probably no. So why is this? Maybe it has to do with the fact that most teenage boys can’t even keep care of themselves, let alone a baby. Maybe some of them feel as if it’s not theirs or that just because they are not the ones carrying the baby that it is not their responsibility. Whatever the answer might be, it is irresponsible and immature of those all guys who leave the mother to fend for herself.  Not to be cliché but it “takes two to tango”. That baby is just as much there as it is the woman of the relationship. I guess that is just a lesson to each girl out there, that if you want to be sexually active with a guy make sure that he is responsible for his actions and will be there if anything would ever happen.  I guess some guys like Corey do take responsibility for the babies and I have to commend them for that!

Another common theme I found among the moms this week as that each one of them graduated or are trying to graduate. I always knew that I would graduate when I was suppose to so I guess I found it a little hard to relate to. It is crazy when something like a baby comes along and all of a sudden your highest aspiration is to graduate from high school. All of a sudden you are no longer just responsible for yourself and you have to think the future for your child, I can’t even imagine what that would be like at the age of 16.

Now I want to get into each Mom and what I thought of their episode this week!

First of all, my favorite mom, Leah.  On 16 and Pregnant Leah had twin girls. I feel out of all the girls she is the most real, the most caring, and possibly the best mother. It’s hard to watch her relationship with Corey though. If you don’t know the history about here is the short story: Corey and Leah got pregnant one month after they were dating. At that time Corey was head over heals with Leah, while Leah was head over heals for another guy. They broke up, and as soon as Leah realized what she had lost she wanted Corey back. Now Corey is still trying to heal from the first time his heart was broke, so that’s the short story of their relationship. Now, during the episode on Tuesday 11, Leah graduated high school. I admire her, because she is one out of 2 moms that have actually graduated. Leah isn’t one of those teen moms who call themselves the mother and than hand them off to the grandmother, she lives in her own house, and keeps care of the twins by herself. Now that is admirable!

Next is Kaitlyn. During the being of the show Kaitlyn and her former boyfriend Jo, got into a huge argument and it all blew up in her face. First of all, Kaitlyn came from a bad family background so she is living with Jo. She relies on him for a house and a car. One thing I have to mention is that I believe Jo’s mom is incredible. She truly has the right vision in mind, which is no matter what happens to the relationship between the couple, the baby comes first!

The next mom, who I deem is the most irresponsible, Janelle. A lot of drama went on between Janelle and her mother this episode. First of all I think that anyone who has any attitude resembling hers should never consider being a parent until they are older. Janelle is the poster child for immaturity. Janelle THINKS that she does a lot for her child, she said something like “ I do so much for him, I give him a bath and put him to bed”.  Once she has put him in bed, she proceeds to spend the rest of the night party and being with her friends. Her mother, who works full time, gets the baby up, feed him, washes him, and takes him to daycare before Janelle is out of bed. It frustrates me when I see these shows and the parents think that it is okay if they run out every night and party as if they never had the child in the first place. I have found out from years of watching 16 and pregnant and teen mom that usually it is the most irresponsible, and immature teenagers, and I guess that’s why they are in there current situation today. Okay, back to Janelle, so after her mother finally gets fed up with it she is now taken Janelle to court to try to get custody of the baby.  That is when all the true drama starts. Once Janelle finds out she starts physically and verbally attacking her mother.

Now for the last teen mom, Chelsea. I feel, that Chelsea is not ready to be a mom.  She gets grosses out by things like throw-up. On the positive side, she has an amazing dad who helps her out, but at the same time is always honest. Chelsea really focused this episode on her trying to find someone to love. At one point in the show she was crying to her father saying that she just wants to love someone and to grow old with someone. This is understandable, but I believe that she can’t find it when she is still in her teens has a baby and hasn’t even graduated from high school.  If you think about it realistically, what 18-19 year old guy is going to want to date someone who has a baby?  As I already mention most guys that age are still immature and are not thinking about wanting to get married and have a baby and all those things that would tie down a guy. I am confident that one day she will find someone that will both love her and her baby. Now, that probably won’t be next week, and it might not even been 2 years from now, but someday I am sure she will find it.  

Well, that is all for my comments on last week show! See you next week with all the details on the second episode of Teen Mom 2!

New Season, New Drama.

Most everyone knows about the television show 16 and Pregnant. More than likely, if you follow 16 and Pregnant you watch the follow up on all the new teen mothers by watching “Teen Mom”.  Starting January 11 a new season of teen mom starts, “Teen Mom 2”. For some reason, last year the MTV captured my attention with the stories of the teen mothers and how their lives changed after having their children. Get ready, this season I am taking on the challenge of devoting my Tuesday nights to digesting the episodes’. I will be sharing my feelings about the shows and go into my thoughts about the reality of the show.